🎵 2022-08-30 17:05:32 - Paris/France.
I-Neurosis-co-founder kunye negitare uScott Kelly ubhengeze umhlalaphantsi wakhe kumculo emva kokuvuma ukuxhaphaza umfazi nabantwana bakhe.
Kwisiteyitimenti esitsha esithunyelwe kwiphepha lakhe lobuqu likaFacebook, uKelly uthetha ixesha elide malunga noxhatshazo, esithi "ubandakanyeke ekuxhatshazweni ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwemali, ngamazwi nasemzimbeni womfazi wam nabantwana abancinci" ekuhambeni kweminyaka ".
Ubhala athi: “Xa ndandinexhala lokuba abantu babeza kufumanisa [ngokuxhatshazwa], ndafumana iindlela zokuthintela umfazi nabantwana bam ukuba bangasebenzi baze baye esikolweni yaye ndabangela iiyantlukwano kubahlobo namalungu entsapho.
“Ndathi phithi kulawulo ndaza ndasebenzisa izisongelo, ukuqhatha, izisongelo zokuzenzakalisa nokuzibulala, ndenza umonakalo emzimbeni ebantwini nakudumo lwabo, konke oko ukuze ndigcine olu lawulo. Ndathi ndisazi ukuba umfazi wam uza kuhamba, ndazama ukumqinisekisa nabanye ukuba ndiphambene, ndibona izinto yaye andiyazi into endiyenzayo.
“Wazama ukundinceda ngonyango nangoogqirha bengqondo. Ubuxoki bam kunye nokukhohlisa kwam kwahlukana phambi kweengcali. Xa ekugqibeleni umfazi wam wazama ukuhamba, ndamchubela ndize ndimngcungcuthekisa imini nobusuku ndaza ndabangela ukuba yena nomncinane wethu bahlale besoyika.
“Ndiye ndaxoka okanye ndithetha inyaniso engaphelelanga kubantu abaninzi ngale nto kangangokuba andikwazi ukuhambisana nabo. Andisafuni kuxoka ngale nto.
Uhlabela mgama esithi: “Ndiyamthanda umfazi wam ngokungapheliyo. Ngoyena mntu ndimaziyo. Unyanisekile kakhulu, unothando kwaye ulungile entliziyweni. Le leta [ye] elula kakhulu yomonakalo ongenakulungiseka endiwubangeleyo kunye nezinto ezingaxolelekiyo endizenzileyo kuye nakubantwana bethu. Ukuthetha ngakumbi ngeli qonga loluntu akusayi kunceda mntu.
“Ekubeni inyani yayiqala ukuvela, kwakukho abantu ababezama ukugxeka umfazi wam ngokuxhatshazwa kwam ngenjongo yokundivulela indlela yokuphuma nabantu ababesasaza amarhe ahlekisayo nawonzakalisayo ngaye. Oko kumoshakele. Ufanelwe ngcono kakhulu. Ukuba uthatha esi simo sengqondo okanye usasaza la marhe, kufuneka uyeke. Ndinemiba enzulu endijongene nayo kwaye ndizahlule nakubani na onxulumene nobomi bam basesidlangalaleni ukuze ndikwazi ukugxila kweyam i-shit eyityhefu.
UKelly wongeza ngelithi imeko yamva nje “eyayicaphukisa” “ifuna inyathelo elikhawulezileyo kum ukuze ndilungise ingxelo.”
“Ndiyazi ngoku ukuba ukukhetha ukuphila ubomi boluntu nokuba seqongeni kube sesona sigqibo sibi ngendisithathile ngenxa yendlela endiyiyo. Ndazifihla emva kokuqwalaselwa, intlonipho kunye nokuncoma okungenasiseko. Ndasebenzisa isikhundla sam sasekuhlaleni ukuze ndikulawule ngokungqalileyo nangokungangqalanga nokufihla ukuxhatshazwa kosapho lwam. Ndanelisekile bubuqhetseba bam kunye nokulawulwa okubonwayo kwawo wonke umntu ochaphazelekayo.
UKelly uqukumbela ngelithi: “Ndiye ndayeka ngokupheleleyo ukuba yimvumi ehlawulwayo. Abanye abantu banokuba kwimeko efana nale apho kungekho xanduva kwaye bagcine ingqibelelo yabo. Andinako. Eyona njongo yam kubomi bam bonke kukukhathalela usapho lwam, ndilunike indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuphilisa, kwaye ndakhe ukuzithemba kwalo.
Emva kwengxelo kaKelly, iqela lakhe leNeurosis – uSteve Von Till, uDave Edwardson, uNoah Landis kunye noJason Roeder – baphendule ngomyalezo wabo, besithi “abanako ukuligqithisa izinga lokuzonya kunye nokuphoxeka esikuvayo ngendoda esasiyibiza ngokuba ngumzalwana. ”
Kwisithuba, badiza ukuba bohlukane noKelly ngo-2019 emva kokufumanisa "izenzo zoxhatshazo ezinzulu ezenziwa kusapho lwakhe kwiminyaka edlulileyo."
"Kwixesha elidlulileyo, uScott wachaza iingxaki zakhe zomtshato kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngamazwi, kunye nenjongo yakhe yokufuna uncedo kunye nokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha," yatsho ingxelo. “Ulwazi esilufunde ngo-2019 lwakwenza kwacaca ukuba uScott uwele umgca kwaye akukho kubuya ngamva.
“Asizange sabelane ngale nkcazelo kuba sihlonela isicelo esingqalileyo somfazi wakhe sokuba abe ngasese yaye sihlonela iminqweno yentsapho yokungavumeli amava ayo abe yintlebendwane kwiphephancwadi lomculo. Nge-27 ka-Agasti ka-Agasti ka-2022 ka-Facebook ebhengeza esidlangalaleni uninzi lolu lwazi, sinokuthi ekugqibeleni sithethe into esicinga ukuba kufuneka ithethwe.
“Kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini edlulileyo besihlala kude kwaye besibona uScott kuphela xa sidibana sisebenza kumculo okanye sidlala imiboniso. Sasingayazi ukuba injani imeko yosapho lwakhe xa singekho. Ngokuvuma kukaScott ngokwakhe, ukuxhatshazwa kwakhe kwakungabom, kujoliswe kuko, kwaye kuyimfihlelo egcinwe ngokusondeleyo – nakwabo basondeleyo kuye.
“Sathi sakufumanisa ukuba uye waxhatshazwa, kwaba nzima ukuvisisanisa le nkcazelo yoyikekayo nomntu esasicinga ukuba siyamazi. Ayimangalisi into yokuba walufihla uxhatshazo ixesha elide kuba kukungcatsha imigaqo yethu yokuziphatha njengamaqabane eqela, amaqabane, abazali kunye nabantu.
Ibhendi ibhale ukuba sele ifowunele iminxeba emininzi ukusukela ngo-2019 ukuba ibe "nengxoxo enyanisekileyo malunga nenqanaba lebhendi kunye nokufumanisa ukuba baqhuba njani nosapho lwakhe, kodwa wala ukuthetha nathi iminyaka emithathu." Bongeza ukuba umyalezo omtsha kaKelly uthunyelwe ngaphandle kokunxibelelana nabo kuqala.
“Kuthi, esi sigqibo sibonakala njengelinye ilinge lokukhohlisa, elinye ithuba lokuba i-narcissism yakhe ilawule ibali. Ungamvumeli uScott athethe ngesiqu sakhe, oku kumalunga nempatho-gadalala usapho lwakhe olwafumana kuyo.
Ngokwesiqhelo, besiya kujonga ukungafihli kuluntu kunye nokunyaniseka malunga nesifo sengqondo njengenkalipho kwaye nokuba nemveliso. Asikholelwa nje ukuba kunjalo apha.
“Akukho nto inesibindi ngokuxhaphaza umfazi nabantwana bakho. Akukho nto inesibindi malunga nokuvuma ububi xa ungenzanga umsebenzi oyimfuneko wokutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo. Akukho nto inesibindi malunga nokwala ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo, okanye konke konke, nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo kunye namaqabane ebhendi, abantu abaye bakuxhasa kwaye bema nawe ixesha elininzi lobomi bakho.
“Xa kuthelekiswa nempembelelo yezenzo zikaScott kwintsapho yakhe, impembelelo kwiqela lethu ayibalulekanga kangako. Nangona kunjalo, ngentlungu kunye noloyiko, sikwakhala ngokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wethu wobomi kunye nelifa elingcwele kuthi.
UScott Kelly, i-bassist uDave Edwardson kunye nomdlali wegubu uJason Roeder benza i-Neurosis ngo-1985 kwaye bakhupha ii-albhamu ze-studio ezili-11.
SOURCE: Uphonononga Iindaba
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