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Othandekayo uZakary noEliya,
Uyakhumbula wawuqala ukundibona eqongeni? SasiseLas Vegas ngo-2018, kwaye utata wakho wakuzisa kumboniso. Wamangaliswa kuko konke, izibane, iimpahla kunye nesihlwele. Emva koko, nina nobabini, "Bendingazi ukuba utata angayenza loo nto."
Kwakudala, ndandingazi ukuba ndingayenza. Uneminyaka eyi-11 kunye no-9 ngoku, kwaye xa ndandingangawe, ndandingenakuphupha ukuba ubomi buza kundibeka phi. Xa ndikhangela emva kule minyaka ingama-75 idluleyo, zininzi kakhulu izinto endizingcayo ngazo, zininzi kakhulu izinto endizifundileyo. Njengoko nizezona ndawo zimbini zixabisekileyo ebomini bam, ndifuna ukwabelana nani ngezinye zezi zifundo.
Xa ndandiselula, ndaxelelwa ukuba ndifanelekele, ndenze oko abanye babekulindele naxa kubonakala kungafanelekanga. Ngoku ndiyaqonda ukuba ndinokuba ndim kuphela. Ukunyaniseka kum kuko okundinika ilizwi lam kwaye kwandinceda ukuba ndijamelane nolona loyiko lwam. Ndenze ubuhlobo obunzulu, ndafumana uthando lobomi bam kwaye ndaba ngutata wakho. Nokuba ungubani na, yiba nguwe, ngokupheleleyo nangokupheleleyo ngokwakho.
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Ndiyazi ukwamkelwa ukuba ungubani ngokwenene ehlabathini akusoloko kulula. Kwaye kwiminyaka yam engama-75 njengendoda yesini, ndibone utshintsho oluninzi oluhle lwentlalo. Ngaphambili, abantu be-LGBTQ + babethathwa ngokuba "babi" okanye "ababi". Iseyinde indlela ekusafuneka siyihambe, kodwa mna notatakho saziva sikhuselekile ukuba singanizisa nobabini apha emhlabeni. Besicinga ukuba uya kwamkeleka apha, njengabantwana botata ababini.
Kwaye nangona kunjalo, nangona sasikubambe kwaye iintliziyo zethu ziphuphuma uthando kunye nekratshi, inxalenye yethu yayisoyika. Ngaba abanye abantwana bangakugculela ngokuba nootata ababini?
Ngoko sikufundela amabali angexesha lokulala malunga neentsapho ezifana nezethu. Eyona nto wawuyithanda kakhulu Incwadi yosapho nguTodd Parr. Nobabini nawuqonda ngoko nangoko umyalezo wakhe olula. “Zininzi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuba lusapho,” utshilo. “Usapho lwakho lukhethekile, nokuba sisiphi na isini. »
U-Elton John, uDavid Furnish kunye noonyana babo uZachary noEliya bafika kumdlalo wePremier League ngoSeptemba 16, 2017 eWatford, eNgilani. (Ifoto nguDan Mullan/Getty Images)
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Ukuqala kwakho isikolo, ubusazi ukuba sohlukile. Ubusazi ukuba umahluko ulungile, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ubusazi ukuba uyathandwa. Abanye abantwana ofunda nabo babuza imibuzo engenakuphepheka, kodwa wena nabafundisi-ntsapho bakho niyiphendule ngokunyanisekileyo. Ubunalo ithuba lokukhula, njengabo ufunda nabo.
Wonke umntwana kweli hlabathi ulifanele eli thuba. Kodwa njengoko ndinibhalela le leta, urhulumente waseFlorida ufuna ukuthintela abafundisi-ntsapho babantwana ukuba “bathethe izitabane” kumagumbi abo okufundela.
Funda ngakumbi: Yintoni iBill yaseFlorida ethi 'Musa Ukuthi Gay' inokuthethwa kuBantwana be-LGBTQ
Khawucinge ukuba kwakungekho mthethweni ukuba ootitshala bakho bathethe ngentsapho yethu. Akukho ndlela yokubalisa amabali ngathi esikolweni. Akukho zincwadi zokufunda zamakhwenkwe anootata ababini. Yaye kubantwana abatsala nzima ukuqonda nokwamkela ukuba bangoobani na, eli tyala linokubathintela ekufumaneni uncedo abalufunayo.
Yiloo nto kanye eyenzekayo. Njengoko eminye imimandla yehlabathi isiba nonyamezelo, eminye iba ziingxabano yaye ibe yingozi ngakumbi. Ibuyisela umva kwaye isenzakalise sonke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sichonga njani. Kukho ubuncinci amazwe angama-68 kwihlabathi jikelele asabenza ulwaphulo-mthetho abantu be-LGBTQ+, ngokweHuman Rights Watch. Mna notatakho singabanjwa nje ngokuba sithi. Masingaze siyilibale indlela esinethamsanqa ngayo.
Okundizisa kwisifundo sam sobomi besibini: ukwakha iibhulorho, hayi iindonga. Ndikhe ndadlala phambi kweebhiliyoni zabantu kumsebenzi wam kwaye ndiye ndanovuyo lokudibana namawaka aliqela kubo. Uninzi lwabantu - gay, straight, black, white, rich or poor - bonke bafuna izinto ezithile ezisisiseko ebomini: ukukhuseleka, ukuhlonelwa, ukuthandwa nokukhululeka. Kodwa namhlanje siphila kwihlabathi apho amaxesha amaninzi, endaweni yokwamkela ukwahluka, sivala.
Ndiyabulela kwinxaxheba yam kumlo ochasene noGawulayo, amehlo am aye avulwa kule nto ngendlela endingazange ndiyicinge. Kangangamashumi eminyaka, abantu abaphila ne-HIV kunye noGawulayo baye bahlazeka, babekwa ibala kwaye bagwetywe kabukhali, okanye okubi ngakumbi, bengahoywa.
Kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu eyadlulayo, ndaseka i-Elton John AIDS Foundation, ukuzisa uvavanyo oluyimfuneko nonyango lwe-HIV kwizigidi zabantu, nokunceda abantu abaphila ne-HIV balwe ibala abalinyamezelayo . Kumazwe ngamazwe, sidibanise uluntu lwe-AIDS kunye noorhulumente, i-pharma enkulu, icawa kunye namajelo eendaba. Ngokuvula incoko, siye savula iintliziyo neengqondo kwaye sajika nobhubhane lobhubhane we-AIDS.
Sisenomsebenzi ekufuneka siwenze, kubandakanywa ngoku eRashiya naseUkraine, apho le ntshabalalo ilimaza abantu abasesichengeni kwaye ibathintele ekufikeleleni kwiinkonzo ezinokusindisa ubomi babo. Njengomntu owazalwa emva kweMfazwe Yehlabathi II, andizange ndicinge ukuba ndingaphinda ndilubone ungquzulwano olunjalo eYurophu. Ibuhlungu intliziyo. Kufuneka iyeke.
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Akukho mntwana kufuneka adlule kule nto. Ndifuna ukhulele kwilizwe elingenangquzulwano, apho ungafezekisa amaphupha akho nokuba ayintoni na. Kwaye ndifuna bonke abanye abantwana - bonke abanye abantu, kuyo yonke indawo - ukuba babe nethuba elifanayo. Ndiyibonile indlela esinokukhula ngayo ngokuvuma ukungafani kwethu nokufunda ukuba novelwano novelwano omnye komnye.
Oku kundizisa kwisifundo sam sokugqibela: buyisela. Ukukhonza into enkulu kunawe yeyona nto inomvuzo onokuyenza. Eli hlabathi alilingani kwaye alinabulungisa, kwaye kuxhomekeke kuthi ukulenza libe ngcono. Yiyo loo nto ndinikele kakhulu kumculo wam kunye nesiseko sam. Yaye impembelelo yabo yandinika uvuyo olukhulu ngenxa yembuyekezo.
Ndandineminyaka engama-75 yethamsanqa elimangalisayo. Ndikhe ndanesabelo sam sohambo, kwaye ndiza kukuxelela ngezinye zezona ziphambeneyo ngelinye ixesha. Kodwa yazi oku: olona hambo lunomvuzo ebomini bam lolo ndaluqala kwiminyaka eyi-12 eyadlulayo notata wakho, xa sagqiba ekubeni sibe nosapho.
UDavid Furnish, uElton John kunye noonyana babo uEliya kunye noZachary baya kwi-23rd Annual Elton John AIDS Foundation Academy Awards Viewing Party ngoFebruwari 22, 2015 eLos Angeles, eCalifornia. (Ifoto nguMichael Kovac/Getty Imifanekiso ye-EJAF)
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UZakariya noEliya, nina nobabini sesona sipho sikhulu endakha ndasinikwa. Uyigcwalise intliziyo yam ngothando kunye nobomi bam obunenjongo kunye nentsingiselo ngeendlela endingazange ndicinge ukuba zinokwenzeka. Ungowona msebenzi wam unebhongo, kwaye ndikuthanda kakhulu, kakhulu.
Xa ukuvalwa kwam kubambe ukhenketho lwam, umhlaba wam wancipha kwaye ndaqala ukubona ubomi ngenye indlela. Ndiya kuhlala ndikuthanda ukuhamba kwaye ndidlalela abalandeli bam umculo, kodwa undibonisile ukuba ndingonwaba kakhulu ekhaya kunye nawe udlala i-UNO okanye ukuya kwiPizza Express.
Ngoku mandikhe ndabelane ngeengcebiso ezimbalwa zokugqibela, kuba ngenye imini zinokukhala ziyinyani:
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