Abathinteli bothando bayakuphepha ukwaziwa kubudlelwane ukuze bazikhusele ekungeneni nasekulawulweni ngomnye umntu. Abaphephe Uthando kuphephe ukunxulumana ngokusondeleyo namaqabane abo, usebenzisa iinkqubo ezahlukeneyo ezifana “neendlela zokubonisa umgama.”
Kutheni abaphepheli betsaleleka kwixhala? Oku kuthetha ukuba iintlobo ezixhalabileyo zidibana nabantu abaphephayo kuba abantu abaziphethe kakubi baziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga. Ngendlela efanayo, abantu abaphephayo batsala amaqabane anexhala abenza bazive becinezelekile. Oku kuqinisekisa ukukholelwa kwabo kwindlela ubudlelwane obumele bubukeke ngayo.
Ngaba Abaphephayo baba nesithukuthezi?
Abantu abaneendlela zokunqanda ukuncamathisela ba kusenokwenzeka ukuba bazive bebodwa kumava abo lwehlabathi, ngokutsho kophando olutsha olupapashwe kwijenali yoBuntu kunye neeyantlukwano zoMntu. Uphononongo lukwabonelela ngobungqina bokuba ukuziva ulikheswa yinto eyahlukileyo kubulolo.
Ngaba Abakuphephayo abanaluvelwano? Ngenxa yoku kuphambuka ngokweemvakalelo, badla ngokungabi novelwano kangako ngabantu abasweleyo (Joireman, Needham, & Cummings, 2001; Wayment, 2006). Ngaphezu koko, abantu abaphephayo bavame ukuphendula kakubi kwiimvakalelo zeqabane labo kuba ezo mvakalelo zingabonakalisa ukuba bafuna ingqalelo engakumbi kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Yintoni umntu olula uthando?
Mhlawumbi uyamazi umntu onguNqaku-Thando- umntu okuphephayo nokoyika ukusondelelana. Ukuphepha uthando kuqhelekileyo kubantu abahluphekayo ngesondo okanye umlutha we-porn. Abathinteli bothando badla ngokutsaleleka kwi-Love Addicts - abantu abaxakeke luthando.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba umntu aphephe?
Kufuneka uxhomekeke kwabanye. Ukuziva ngathi ubudlelwane buthatha ixesha labo elininzi. Ukugxekwa ngu abo babathandayo. Ukuziva ngathi baya kugwetywa ngenxa yeemvakalelo.
Ngaba abaphephe ukuwela eluthandweni?
Abantu abaphephayo musa ukufuna ukusondela kunye nokusondelana, kuphephe ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo, kwaye babonakale bekude kwaye bebanda. Abantu abanale ndlela yokuncamathelayo abanakufane bathandane, kwaye ababonakali ngathi bakholelwa 'ngolonwabo emva koko'. Boyika ukusondelelana kwaye bathande ukungazibandakanyi kangako kubudlelwane.
Ngaba Abaphepheli bafuna ukuleqwa?
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuphepha, usenokuba nomnqweno “wokuzisukela”. Xa besuka, uzama ngamandla ukusondela kubo. Kuwe, oku kuvakala njengesisombululo kwingxaki. … Kungaziva kuchasene nokuyeka ukuleqa iqabane lakho okanye ukuzama ukuvala loo msantsa weemvakalelo.
Ngaba abantu abaphephayo banabahlobo?
Abantu abanohlobo lokuncamathela olugxothwayo bazimele kakhulu, bahlala befuna ukuzimela kunye nokuzibekela kude ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane labo. … Kubuhlobo, olu hlobo lokuncamathela inokugcinwa kwaye unokuba nabahlobo abaninzi, kodwa bambalwa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo.
Kunjani ukuphila nge- avoidant personality disorder?
Ukuba uhlala nokuphazamiseka kobuntu bokuphepha, abanye banokucinga ngawe uneentloni, ubekelwe bucala, okanye bucala. Le meko idlulela ngaphaya kokuhlazeka, nangona iimpawu zokuqala zihlala zibandakanya ukuba neentloni komntwana. Abantu abaneentloni banokuba nengxaki yokunxibelelana nabantu abatsha ekuqaleni kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe bazive bekhululekile njengoko ixesha lihamba.
Ngaba abathinteli banokubambelela?
Amaqabane okuphephayo adla ngokuthetha ngakumbi ngokuzimela kunokuba asondelelane, inkululeko kunokuba asondelelane, kunye nokuzimela kunokuba axhomekeke kwelinye. Bona yoyika abantu ababambelele okanye bajongwe njengabazincamatheleyo.
Ngaba Abaphephayo bayathandana?
Ukuphepheka abantu abafuni kusondela kunye nokusondelelana, kuphephe ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo, kwaye babonakale bekude kwaye bebanda. Abantu abanale ndlela yokuncamathelayo abanakufane bathandane, kwaye ababonakali ngathi bakholelwa 'ngolonwabo emva koko'. Boyika ukusondelelana kwaye bathande ukungazibandakanyi kangako kubudlelwane.
Ngaba Abaphephayo bacela uxolo?
Uphando luka-Schumann no-Orehek (2019) lubonise ukuba ukuphepha ngakumbi umntu yayikukuba, kokukhona bekuya kuba nzima ukuxolisa kwabo, umzamo omncinci wovelwano abawuthathileyo ekwenzeni uxolo lwabo, kwaye banokukhusela ngakumbi.
Ngaba iiAvoidants zilungile ebhedini?
Nini kakhulu Abantu abaphephayo bayabelana ngesondo namaqabane abo okuqala, abafane babonise uthando kwaye basabele kwiimfuno zamaqabane abo. … Ngokumangalisayo, nangona kunjalo, ubudlelwane babantu abangakhuselekanga ngabona baxhamlayo kwisondo.
Unokwazi njani ukuba umntu uyakuphepha?
Ingxaki yokubonakalisa okanye ukuva iimvakalelo zabo
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Ukungakhululeki ngokusondelana ngokomzimba kunye nokuchukumisa
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Ukumangalela
iqabane labo lokubambelela kakhulu okanye linamathele kakhulu. Ukwala uncedo okanye ukuxhaswa ngokweemvakalelo kwabanye.
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Basenokuba:
- Kuphephe ukubamba umzimba.
- Kuphephe ukujonga ngamehlo.
- Ungaze okanye ungafane ucele uncedo.
- Yitya ngendlela engaqhelekanga okanye engacwangciswanga.
Ngaba abaPhephayo ababini banokuba kubudlelwane?
Abathinteli bahlala behamba kunye nokuba Secure okanye Anxious-Preoccupied amaqabane. Bathanda ukungahlali kunye nabanye abaNqandayo. Esi sisibini esinqabileyo.
Ngaba abaphephe ukudlala imidlalo?
Abantu abaphephayo bafumana iimpazamo nakubani na
Kunokuba avumele ubuhlobo bukhule ngokwemvelo, umntu ophephekayo udla ngokuhlala kwiindawo anganelisekanga kuzo. … Ngelinge lokunciphisa ixhala, baye ngamanye amaxesha ukudlala imidlalo kubudlelwane babo ukufumana ingqalelo.
Ndazi njani ukuba ndiyaphepha?
Ingxaki yokubonakalisa okanye ukuva iimvakalelo zabo
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Ukungakhululeki ngokusondelana ngokomzimba kunye nokuchukumisa
. Ukutyhola iqabane labo ngokuba lincamathele kakhulu okanye linamathele kakhulu. Ukwala uncedo okanye ukuxhaswa ngokweemvakalelo kwabanye.
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Basenokuba:
- Kuphephe ukubamba umzimba.
- Kuphephe ukujonga ngamehlo.
- Ungaze okanye ungafane ucele uncedo.
- Yitya ngendlela engaqhelekanga okanye engacwangciswanga.
Balusingatha njani uqhawulo-mtshato?
Abathinteli baya kusebenzisa ezininzi izizathu (kubo nakwabanye) ukuze baphephe ukuzibhenca ezi nyaniso zisisiseko. Banezono ezimbalwa zokuzisola kwaye bazive bekhululekile ngokushiya iqabane labo, kodwa baya kufuna umntu ofanayo.
Ziziphi iimpawu zokuncamathisela okunqandayo?
Njengomntu omdala, umntu onesitayile sokuzincama unokufumana oku kulandelayo:
- ukuphepha ukusondelana ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane.
- ukuziva ngathi amaqabane abo ayabambelela xa efuna ukusondela ngokweemvakalelo.
- ukurhoxa kunye nokujongana neemeko ezinzima uwedwa.
- ukucinezela iimvakalelo.
Ngaba abo baphephayo banabahlobo abasenyongweni?
Ukugxotha-abathinteli banokuba kuhle xa bedibana nabantu. Oku kubavumela ukuba babe nabahlobo abaninzi kunye nokungazithembi. Ngaphandle kokhetho lwabo, bambalwa, ukuba ikhona, bahlobo abasenyongweni. Bayavuya ukuba bodwa kwaye bagxile kwiziqu zabo xa bengekho kwimeko yentlalo.
Ndingenza njani ukuba ngumhlobo olungileyo ophepha?
Bazise ukuba iimfuno zabo zibalulekile nokuba ubakho xa bekulungele ukuthetha. Umonde ngundoqo ekusebenzelaneni nabantu abaneendlela zokuzincama, kodwa ukubazisa ukuba ubakhathalele ngendlela ehloniphekileyo yindawo entle yokuqala. ”
Nguwuphi umntu odumileyo one- avoidant personality disorder?
UWhoopi Goldberg, uDonny Osmond kunye noKim Basinger unento efanayo ngaphandle kodumo - kukuthintela ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, okanye ngokulula, i-AvPD. Esi sifo siqikelelwa ukuba sichaphazela malunga neepesenti ezimbini zabantu abadala ngokubanzi.
Ngaba i-AVPD inzulu?
I-Avoidant personality disorder (AVPD) sisifo esixhaphakileyo esinxulunyaniswa noxinzelelo olukhulu, ukonakala kunye nokukhubazeka. Sisifo esinganyangekiyo esineminyaka yobudala esaqalayo kunye nempembelelo yobomi bonke. Nangona kunjalo ayaziwa kwaye ayifundwanga kakuhle. Kuncinci okwaziwayo malunga nolona nyango lusebenzayo.
Bunzulu kangakanani ubuntu bokuphepha?
Abantu abane- avoidant personality disorder (APD) bane- ubomi bonke bokuba neentloni. Baziva bengonelanga kwaye banovelwano ngokugqithisileyo. I-APD inokubangela iimpawu zengqondo ezenza iingxaki ezinzulu ngobudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi.