Ngoko ke, ukuba unamatye kwaye uziva ukhukulisekile, yithi ufuna qhawula usebenzisa naluphi na umqondiso, igama, okanye ibinzana wena neqabane lakho enigqibe ngalo. Yazisani xa niziva nisindwa. Emva koko, kufuneka uhambe kwaye wenze into epholileyo ngokwakho.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba uGREY ukungcangcazelisa umntu? Indlela ye-gray rock ibandakanya ukunxibelelana ngendlela engathandekiyo xa usebenzisana nabantu abaxhaphazayo okanye abakhohlisayo. Igama elithi "grey rock" libhekisa ku indlela abo basebenzisa le ndlela yokungaphenduli, efana nelitye.
Ungathini kumntu oxulutywa ngamatye?
Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo lokubonisa ukunganeliseki kwakho ngale ndlela yokuziphatha, kwaye ungqale kwaye ube mfutshane. Yabelana ngemvakalelo efana ne “Ndiziva ndilahliwe xa usenza lento"Ukuba kuyafuneka. 3. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, iqabane lakho aliyi kuvuma ukuyeka nokuyeka ukuxutywa ngamatye.
Ndingenza ntoni endaweni yokurhabula ngamatye?
- Cela ikhefu ngexesha leengxabano. Ukwenziwa ngamatye kudla ngokuba sisiphumo sokuziva ukongamela. ...
- Yamkela into yokuba awunguye “umlungisi kubudlelwane. ...
- Khokela ngovelwano. ...
- Zithembe. ...
- Beka kuqala ukuzinyamekela. ...
- Thetha nomntu oqeqeshiweyo eRelish.
Kuvakala kunjani ukubanjwa ngamatye?
Ukuziva ukhathazekile, unomsindo, ubhidekile kwaye udanile zezinye zeemvakalelo umntu anokuthi abe nazo. … Abantu banokufumanisa ukuba bayabhideka, baxhomekeke kwaye bebuthathaka, nto leyo eyenza kube nzima kubo ukubushiya ubudlelwane okanye babe nomsindo kakhulu kwaye bahambe ngokukhawuleza kangangoko banako.
Yintoni i-hoovering kwi-narcissism?
I-Hoovering yiyo uhlobo lokuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemoyeni okanye ukutyholwa ngokwasemoyeni. I-Hoovering yenziwa "ngumntu one-narcissistic" xa ecinga ukuba ixhoba okanye umntu amxhaphazayo okanye amlawulayo ufuna ukuhamba. … Umxhaphazi wenarcissist uneqhinga. Uyayazi indlela yokucofa amaqhosha akho ukuze uzive uqinisekisiwe okanye unetyala.
Yintoni narcissistic stonewalling?
Narcissist Stonewalling
Ukwakhiwa kwamatye yi ukwala ukunxibelelana nomntu. Oku kuthetha ukuba iqabane lakho alifuni ukumamela wena nezinto ezikuxhalabisayo. I-Stonewalling yenye yezona ndlela zixhaphakileyo zokusebenzisa kakubi i-narcissistic.
Oyika bani narcissists?
Nangona ii-narcissists zisebenza phezulu kunabanye kunye nokuma njengendawo engaphaya kokungcikivwa, ngaphantsi komphandle wabo omkhulu ufihla uloyiko lwabo olunzulu: zineziphene, azivumelekanga yaye ziqhelekile.
Yintoni omele uyenze ukuba umntu ukuxuluba ngamatye?
Nazi ezinye iiMpendulo ezizezinye xa iqabane lam lindibiza
- Uvelwano luhamba umgama omde. ...
- Vula kwaye uFumaneka ukuze uthethe. ...
- Qhagamshelana nomnye. ...
- Unxibelelwano, unxibelelwano, unxibelelwano. ...
- Zama ukunqanda ukuya kwiToe toe. ...
- Gxininisa Kukuzinyamekela Kwakho. ...
- Uxolo Iqabane Lakho. ...
- Ulawulo loxinzelelo.
Yintoni ebangela ukwakhiwa kwamatye?
Kwasentliziyweni yako, ukwakhiwa ngamatye kudla ngokuba yisimilo esizalwa luloyiko, ixhala, nodano. Ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntu abhenele ekutyeni ngamatye ziquka:… Uloyiko lokusabela kweqabane labo okanye apho intetho inokukhokelela khona. Inkolelo yokuba iqabane labo alinamnqweno wokusombulula ingxabano.
Ujongana njani neqabane lokulwa ngamatye?
Mamela ukuba iqabane lakho lithini kwaye ungamgwebi. Okukhona umntu eziva ekhululeke ngakumbi xa enxibelelana nawe, kokukhona baya kuvula kwaye bayeke indlela yokuziphatha edibanisa amatye. Mjonge emehlweni. Akukho nto ithi unomdla ngaphezu kokujongana ngamehlo xa uzama ukunxibelelana nomntu.
Kutheni le nto ilitye libuhlungu kangaka?
Kumatye andlongondlongo, umthengisi wamatye uyayazi loo nto ukuthi cwaka, igxalaba elibandayo, kunye nokuzahlula ngokweemvakalelo kulikhathaza iqabane lakhe. Wenza iindonga zamatye ukuze afumane amandla okanye amandla. Eli liqhinga eliqhelekileyo kubudlelwane obubethayo, apho iqabane elinamandla ngakumbi lilawula okanye lilawule lowo ungaphantsi kwamandla.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba umntu abe ngamatye?
Kwasentliziyweni yako, ukwakhiwa ngamatye kudla ngokuba yisimilo esizalwa luloyiko, ixhala, nodano. Ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntu abhenele ekutyeni ngamatye ziquka:… Uloyiko lokusabela kweqabane labo okanye apho intetho inokukhokelela khona. Inkolelo yokuba iqabane labo alinamnqweno wokusombulula ingxabano.
Wenza ntoni narcissist xa uwanqumle?
I-narcissist iya kwenza zama ukuqhakamshelana nawe ukuba uyalucima unikezelo lwabo, kwaye bayayazi into abanokuyithetha ukuze ubuye. Ngoko kufuneka ube nenkohlakalo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Kungangcono ukwahlukana nabo ngokubhaliweyo kwakhona, ukuze bangakwazi ukukukhohlisa ngokubhekele phaya.
Kutheni narcissists bakhetha ukuthumela imiyalezo?
Ukubhalelana ngefowuni kwenza kulula kakhulu ukuba i-narcissist izimele kwindawo ecacileyo. Ayinabuntu, iyakhawuleza, kwaye ayithathi mandla. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokudlala imidlalo yengqondo okanye ukuzenza omnye umntu.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa unika i-narcissist unyango oluthuleyo?
Ngokusisiseko, umyalezo womntu onenkani ungowokungamkelwa ngokugqithisileyo kangangokuba ukuthula kuyenza into ekujoliswe kuyo ingabinamsebenzi kangangokuba angahoywa kwaye ibe yinto engekhoyo ngakumbi okanye engaphantsi kwamehlo omntu onama-narcissistic.
Ngaba ukubethelwa ngamatye kuyafana nokuhlala uthi cwaka?
Ukuphathwa cwaka, eyaziwa ngokuba stonewalling, yi xa “umphulaphuli erhoxa kunxibelelwano, esala ukuthatha inxaxheba okanye ukubandakanyeka, ngokusisiseko engaphenduli, ”Ucacisa uJohn Gottman, umphandi wezengqondo owaziwayo ehlabathini.
Ngaba ukungahoyi i-narcissist kuyabakhathaza?
Ukuba awuyihoyi i-narcissist kwaye uyayikhanyela umthombo wabo, basenokucaphuka kwaye uzame nangakumbi ukuba ingqalelo yakho - ngakumbi ngeendlela ezinokuba yingozi okanye ukuxhaphaza. Ukungahoyi i-narcissist kuya kubacaphukisa ngenxa ye-egos yabo ebuthathaka. Baya kuziva behlazekile kwaye bahlasele kuwe ukuze bazikhusele.
Yintoni narcissist ayithiye kakhulu?
Isishwankathelo kunye neZiphetho. Abantu abane-narcissistic kakhulu banenzondo ukubona abanye bonwabile. Kungenxa yokuba bona ngokwabo abakwazi ukuziva ulonwabo lokwenene. Baza kusebenzisa iinkohliso ezininzi ezigoba ingqondo kunye nezizathu zokuchaza ukuba kutheni ulonwabo lwakho, ngamagama amaninzi, sisenzo sobundlobongela ngokuchasene nabo.
Bubuphi ubuthathaka benarcissist?
Ubuthathaka obukhulu kwi-narcissist ukusilela ukujonga ngaphakathi kunye nenyama oko kufuneka kusetyenzwe. Emva koko, inyathelo elilandelayo kukuchitha ixesha uphucula. I-narcissist sabotages nayiphi na ithuba lokujonga nzulu ngaphakathi.
Yintoni eyona nto icaphukisa i-narcissist?
Narcissists bathanda ingqalelo, ukuqinisekiswa, kunye namandla. Ke yintoni eqhuba i narcissist aphambane? Ngamafutshane, nantoni na ebeka emngciphekweni iimfuno zabo ezisisiseko zokuphakama kunokukhawuleza ukubacaphukisa. Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungamcaphukisa njani narcissist, awukwazi ukujonga ngaphezulu kunokuba ungabaniki nto kwaphela.
Ngaba ukugawula ngamatye ngumda?
Iyacaphukisa into yokuba umntu wakho omthandayo athethe nomphulaphuli we-Stonewalling. Ukuthula kwakho ngamatye asikokungathathi cala okanye ukumisela umda. Idlulisela ukungamkelwa kunye nomgama ngokweemvakalelo.
Yintoni enokuyenza ngomyeni wamatye?
Amayeza okwenziwa kwamatye
- Cela ikhefu ngexesha lengxabano. Xa elinye iqabane lixakeke kakhulu kwaye likhukula, enye yezona ndlela ziphumeleleyo kukuthatha ikhefu. ...
- Cela into oyifunayo, hayi into ongayifuniyo. Xa omabini amaqabane eqala kwakhona incoko yengxabano, gxila ekuvakaliseni iimfuno ezilungileyo. ...
- Bonisa uxabiso.
Uthetha njani nomntu ovalayo?
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntu omthandayo evala
- thatha ikhefu, okanye “etafileni” kwincoko.
- bhala phantsi iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ukuze uzindwendwele kwakhona kamva.
- Hlala uphole.
- musa ukuziphindezela.
- musa ukuvutha ngumsindo womntu omdala.
- yenza into ezithuthuzelayo.
- qwalasela ungenelelo lobungcali.