😍 2022-05-15 08:37:38 - Paris/France.
UDonald Cline ngugqirha wokuchuma osuka e-Indiana (eUnited States) onoxanduva lokufaka amadlozi amabhinqa ngaphandle kwemvume yawo kwaye avelise abantwana abamalunga ne-100 ngale ndlela. (Netflix)
“Ndingekakubumbi esizalweni, ndakwazi, ungekabikho ukuzalwa kwakho, ndakungcwalisa, ndakunika umprofeti weentlanga.”amazwi athatyathwe kwindinyana yeBhayibhile uYeremiya 1:15 alishwankathela kakuhle eli bali lingakholelekiyo: ugqirha wenzala onodidi olukaThixo owathi ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-30 wazinikela ekufakeleni izigulana ngamadlozi akhe ngaphandle kwemvume yabo waza wavumela phantse abantwana abalikhulu.
Ityala likaDonald Cline labuyiselwa kwindawo ebonakalayo yihlazo Ifilimu yeNetflix enesihloko esithi "Bawo wethu," elandela ibali likaJacoba Ballard, enye yeentombi zogqirha owoyikekayo, ekhangela abantakwabo kunye nesazisi sakhe.
UJacoba Ballard wakhula ekrokra ukuba yena, kuphela i-blonde enamehlo aluhlaza kwintsapho yama-brunettes, yamkelwe. Xa wayeneminyaka eyi-10, abazali bakhe bamxelela ukuba basebenzise amadlozi ukuze amkhawule.
“Ndandifuna ukuba nomntwana kabuhlungu” unina, uDebbie Smith, uthe kwi-documentary, ebonisa intlungu ebonakalayo ebusweni bakhe.
Emva kwemizamo emininzi engaphumeleliyo, abakwaSmith baphendukela kuCline, owayedume ngokuba ngoyena ubalaseleyo kwinto eyayiyiyo intsimi entsha yonyango lokuzala kunye nokufakwa kwamadlozi okungengowamvelo, yaye umsebenzi wawo e-Indianapolis, e-Indiana, eUnited States, wawuphantse ube nengxelo yokuyila ngendlela engenampazamo.
Ugqirha olungileyo nomKrestu ozinikeleyo, umdala wecawe kunye nelungu elihlonitshwayo ekuhlaleniwabaxelela ukuba amadlozi aphuma kumagqirha ahlala ekliniki kwaye lonto umnikezeli ngamnye akakwazanga ukusetyenziswa ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezintathu ukuphepha naziphi na iingxaki ezizayo ngokuzalanisa. Ngenxa yoku, lo gqirha waqinisekisa ukuba, sabaphepha “abazalwana noodade” ababini singaqondanga ukuba babe nabantwana kunye.
UDebbie nomyeni wakhe bavuma ukunyangwa yaye, ngokunyanisekileyo kudumo lwakhe, uGqr. Cline wakwazi ukubamithisa. Kwiinyanga ezisithoba kamva, uJacoba wazalwa.
Ukususela ebuntwaneni, xa wafumanisa ukuba ukhawulwe ngokufakelwa kwe-artificial insemination evela kumnikeli ongaziwayo,okanye, Jacoba waba phithi imvelaphi yakhe, kunye nomnombo wakhe, kunye nethuba lokuba nabanye abazalwana noodade kunye nokufunyanwa le "usapho olutsha".
Njengomntu omdala, uJacoba wagqiba ekubeni athathe uvavanyo lweDNA, enethemba "lokufumana abazalwana bakhe." Wayelazi ibali “lomnikeli” wakhe okanye ubuncinci inguqulelo awayeyixelelwe ngumama wakhe: wayengugqirha wabahlali kwaye amadlozi akhe ayengasetyenziswa kubasetyhini abangaphezu kwesithathu.
Uvavanyo lwenziwa ngo-2014 kusetyenziswa iinkonzo ze-23andMe, ezazidume kakhulu ngelo xesha. Ukothuka kokuqala xa iziphumo zingena zafika kwinani labantwana bakowenu ekucingelwa ukuba uhlobene nabo. Kwakukho iziganeko ezisixhenxe, into eyayimshukumisa kakhulu, ekubeni wayekwazi ukufumana abantu abathandayo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza waziva enomdla kwaye esaba: kutheni bebaninzi kangaka?
UJacoba Ballard wayengowokuqala kubantwana bakaDonald Cline ukuphanda ngemvelaphi yakhe kwaye baqala ukufumanisa imbali emfiliba phakathi kwakhe nabantwana bakowabo. (Netflix)
Iziphumo zibonise ukuba ubudlelwane buvela kubawo, owayengabhekiselwanga kuvavanyo, ngoko ke uJacoba wagqiba ekubeni aphande. Wayecinga ukuba inokuba yimpazamo, okanye ukongamela kwekliniki ekusebenziseni umxhasi omnye ngaphezu kwesiqhelo, kodwa nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, wayekholelwa ukuba iimpendulo ziya kufumaneka kuGqr Cline, ngoko wamtsalela umnxeba.
UCline akazange athethe gingci kwimpendulo yakhe: wayengenakukwazi ukukhulula ulwazi lomnikeli kwaye zonke iirekhodi zaloo minyaka zitshatyalalisiwe. Yaba yingxaki, kwaye uJacoba uthi ukhumbula kwincoko yakhe yokuqala indlela awayekude ngayo ngokweemvakalelo. Kodwa akazange ayeke.
Iphulo lokukhangela abazalwana
Uphando lukaJacoba luveze ukuba bonke abantakwenu kwiqonga le-23AndMe banxulunyaniswa nenkosikazi egama linguSylvia, awanxibelelana nayo nge-imeyile. Wamnika uluhlu olupheleleyo lwamagama avela kumthi wosapho lwakhe, omnye wabo, "Swinford", yayiligama likamama kaGqr Cline.
Ngelo xesha, uJacoba, umama wakhe kunye nomnye oodade awayedibene nabo babebandakanyekile ekukhangeleni umnikezeli ongaziwa kwaye wayeqhula ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ngugqirha wokuzala.
“Samkhupha kwangoko, kutheni usenza into enje? ", Wathi uYakobi.
Kodwa ngexesha lokutshintshiselana kwemiyalezo noSylvia, akazange akwazi ukuzibamba ngaphandle kokumbuza: "Ngaba kukho uCline kusapho lwakho ngalo naliphi na ithuba?"
“Owu injalo loo nto, ndilibele tu, umzala wam uDon, ungugqirha. »uphendule watsho.
UDonal Cline ungumntu ohlonelwayo nothandwayo kwindawo ahlala kuyo, umdala ecaweni yakhe, ugqirha owaziwayo, nelungu elithe cwaka lehlelo lobuKristu lobufundamentali iQuiverfull, elikhuthaza abalandeli balo ukuba babe nabantwana abaninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka baze babalungiselele. amandla, ixesha elizayo ukuze babe ngoonozakuzaku bakaThixo. (Netflix)
Lo myalezo wamgulisa, yayibubungqina bento awayesele eyazi kodwa enethemba lokuba ayiyonyani, uyise omzalayo wayengugqirha owayefake amadlozi kumama wakhe, yaye akazange akwenze oko naye kuphela, kodwa ubuncinane nabanye abafazi abasixhenxe.
Ukususela kweli nqanaba, ibali lifumana i-murkier kunye ne-murkier, njengoko ukufunyanwa kokuqala okuyothusayo "uBawo wethu" kufunda ngokuziphatha kukaCline okungahambi kakuhle kunye nokungahambi kakuhle, kodwa ukusuka apho, kunye nomzalwana ngamnye ovelayo, kwaye Njengoko inani lenzalo kagqirha linyuka. , yonke into iba yintlekisa kwaye ingaqhelekanga.
Ngaphezu koko, ifilimu iphela kunye nabazalwana abangama-94 abachongiweyo, kodwa ukususela ekukhululweni kwayo baqhubeka nokubonakala. UJacoba kunye nomlawuli uLucie Jourdan baxelele amajelo eendaba ukuba enye yeendaba iye yavela ngosuku lokukhutshwa kwetreyila kwaye banethemba lokuba kuya kuvela ngakumbi.
"Ihlala isiza njenge-avalanche"UJourdan uxelele uMgcini.
“Kwaye ndicinga ukuba loo nto ifana nemvakalelo awayenayo uJacoba nabanye abantwana bakowenu. Ayiyeki, iya isiba qatha ngakumbi, ihlekisa ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ibuhlungu intliziyo. Kwaye kwakubaluleke kakhulu ukuva ilizwi likaCline kwifilimu, lisithi 'oh, akukho bazalwana abangaphezu kwe-10', 'akukho ngaphezu kwe-15', ebonisa nje ubuxoki bakhe. » wongeze watsho.
Ingxelo ethi "uBawo wethu" ithi kukho inzala kaCline eyaziwayo engama-94, kunye nokuvela okuninzi. (Netflix)
Umlawuli ubhekisela kwelinye lexesha elibi kakhulu le-documentary, apho uCline ophelelwe lithemba ubiza uJacoba ukuba azame ukumisa iindaba zezenzo zakhe, ezazisele zinempembelelo yendawo yokuqala kwaye yayisendleleni yokuba yiendaba zelizwe.
Ngelo xesha, uJacoba wayesele eqhagamshelane nabazalwana abangaphezu kweshumi elinesibini, kwaye neqela elikhethiweyo labo liye laya kujongana noyise wabo wemvelo.
Wawafumana ekhayeni lakhe, enesimo sengqondo esikude nesekliniki, wabuza umntu ngamnye ukuba bangakanani na kwaye baziphilela ntoni, ngelixa ebhala iimpendulo ephepheni, ngokungathi wayevavanya ukuba kude kangakanani. kwafika inzala.
Xa uJacoba Ballard ejonge iziphumo zakhe ze-DNA kwi-2014, wafumanisa ukuba une-7 isiqingatha-abantakwabo, ebangela ukutyhilwa kwezenzo zikaCline. (Netflix)
UJacoba uthi kule ntlanganiso, zimbini izinto ezothusayo: wokuvela etafileni ebophe umpu ebhantini lakhe, ebonakalisa uloyiko olucacileyo, aze amnike isiqwenga sephepha esibhalwe indinyana kaYeremiya 1:15 , njengendlela yokumthuthuzela.
Emva kwethutyana kwangena umnxeba. Kuyo, uCline wafuna ukuba bayeke ukuphanda ngaye, ukuba intatheli ibisoloko imtsalela umnxeba, yaye ukuba ezi ndaba zinokuvela, umtshato wakhe weminyaka engama-57 nobomi bakhe buya kutshabalala.
Kwakuyisenzo esicacileyo sokukhwabanisa, apho kwakungafanelekanga ukuba phantse abantu abangamashumi amabini, ngelo xesha, kwafuneka bafumanise ukuba ubomi bakhe bubuxoki.
izono zikayise
Esinye sezona zityhilelo zinamandla kwibali likaCline zichaphazela iimeko apho izigulane bezingazi nokuba ziza kufakwa ngamadlozi "abaxhasi".
Koko kukuthi, Amabhinqa amaninzi awayesiza eCline ayekwenza oko ukuze afakwe amadlozi abayeni bawo, ngoko ke abantwana babo nabantwana babo kwafuneka bafunde kubantu abadala abangengobantwana bokwenene boyise owabakhulisayo .
Isityhilelo sisodwa siyothusa, zibeke nje ezihlangwini zomnye waba bantwana kwaye ucinge ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa bekuxelele ukuba uyihlo akazange abe nguyihlo kwaye lowo wakuzalayo l Ibingathi luhlobo oluthile lovavanyo lwesayensi olujijekileyo. .
Kodwa eyona nto ichukumisa kakhulu kukuva imbono yabafazi, oomama abeza eCline, ababalisa ngendlela ugqirha abanyanga ngayo, ngokuqhelekileyo eofisini yakhe, bababeka kwisitulo sonyango, kuphela kwigawuni nemilenze. emoyeni, ngelixa "wayekhangela isampuli yomxhasi".
Lo mboniso uphela ngokuzoba ecinga loo nto lo mnikeli yayinguCline, nokuba ukuze afumane amadlozi akhe kwakufuneka aphulule amalungu esini kwigumbi elingummelwane, aze abuye, esaziva iziphumo zokukhutshwa kwembewu, ukuze afake amadlozi akhe kwibhinqa elingazange livume into enjalo.
Uphando lukaJacoba luyintambo eqhelekileyo ye-documentary. (Netflix)
“Bandidlwengula malunga namaxesha ali-15 ndingazi,” watsho omnye woomama owayesisigulana sika Cline xa ebalisa ibali lakhe kwi documentary.
Ukongezelela isithuko kukwenzakala, uGqr. Cline wayengenguye nokuba ngumnikeli ofanelekileyo. Kaloku, wayenesifo samathambo, isifo samathambo esasinokumthintela kuyo nayiphi na ikliniki yokuzala, kuquka neyakhe.
Kubantwana bakowenu abangama-94 ekubhekiselwa kubo kwifilimu, uninzi lwabo lunengxaki yokuphazamiseka kwe-autoimmune, abathi babalelwa kuCline.
Ukongezelela, abaninzi bahlala kumgama oziikhilomitha ezingama-25 ukusuka kwelinye, nto leyo eyongeza enye into kuloyiko. Njengoko uLisa Shepherd-Stidham, “udade wama-22,” esitsho, xa elinye igama livela kwindawo egciniweyo efana “nesalamane esisondeleyo,” wonke umntu uthandazela ukuba ayingomntu amaziyo okanye umntu amaziyo.
ULisa ubalisa ngendlela awafumanisa ngayo ukuba abantwana bakhe baya esikolweni kunye nabantwana bomnye umntakwethu nokuba umyeni wakhe ebebaqeqeshe bonke kwisoftball engazi. Omnye waba "sisi" uthi wothukile kukufunda ukuba uCline nguyise, hayi nje kuba yena nonina babeqinisekile ukuba utata wabo wabakhulisayo. kodwa uCline, esazi ukuba yintombi yakhe, wasebenza njengogqirha wakhe wabafazi kangangeminyaka.
Enye yeentombi zikaCline yathi ibingugqirha wakhe wegazi iminyaka kwaye yamgulisa akufumanisa ukuba ngutata wakhe omzalayo. (Netflix)
Kubo bonke abazalwana ababoniswe kule vidiyo, mnye umbuzo ongaphendulekiyo: Kwakutheni ukuze enze konke oku?
Enye ingcaciso abazalwana ababhekisela kuyo kukubonakala kukaCline eyinxalenye yombutho wamaKristu osisiseko obizwa ngokuba. ukungcangcazela, okhuthaza abalandeli bakhe, okanye ubuncinane abalandeli bebala elithile (elimhlophe), ukuba babe nabantwana abaninzi kangangoko baze babalungiselele amandla ukuze babe ngoonozakuzaku bakaThixo.
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