✔️ 2022-03-22 20:30:00 - Paris/France.
Ufumene njani ngesondo kunye nolonwabo? Utitshala wejim othetha ngayo engathandekiyo kwiklasi "yezempilo"? Ukufunda playboy okanye ubukele iphonografi? Nanjengoko amadoda amaninzi engazi ngenkangeleko yamabhinqa nezinto eziwavuyisayo, abafazi basenokungazi nto, ingakumbi ngenxa yoko luluntu lubafundise yona ngesini. Imigaqo yolonwabo ngamaxwebhu achaza indlela abafazi abafumana ngayo uyolo kubo nakumaqabane abo, kwaye babhuqa iintsomi ezininzi.
Ukudubula okuvula: Ibhinqa limi emva komboniso wezinto zokudlala zesini lize licule elithi “Toyyys!” » kwaye uyahleka.
Okubalulekileyo: Imigaqo yolonwabo, Ibaliswa nguMichelle Buteau, yincwadi enamacandelo amathathu apho izibakala kunye neentsomi zolonwabo lwesondo lwabasetyhini ziphononongwa. Iziqendu zijolise kwindlela abasetyhini abaye bafunda ngayo ngemizimba yabo kwiminyaka edlulileyo kunye neentsomi ezinokuthi zibambe abafazi ukuba bangabikho ngokwesondo, indlela iingqondo zabasetyhini ezinceda ngayo ukugqiba ukuba yintoni ebajikayo kunye nendlela abafazi abalawula ngayo ulonwabo kunye namaqabane abo.
Ifomathi yeziqendu iqulathe udliwano-ndlebe kunye neeseti ezahlukeneyo zabasetyhini abakubudala obahlukeneyo. Bathetha ngendlela abafunde ngayo ngesondo - ubukhulu becala bebodwa - kunye nendlela phantse bonke bafundiswa ngayo ukuba "ingcolile" kwaye into abafazi abafanele bayinqwenele. Iingcali ezininzi nazo zidliwano-ndlebe, kubandakanywa nomfundisi wezesondo uDkt. Emily Nagoski, onopopi "we-vulva" ukuze abonise into eninzi yabasetyhini kwaye phantse akukho madoda ayazi: isakhiwo sonke samalungu angasese e-Women's yi-vulva, equkethe i-labia, kwilungu lobufazi kunye neclitoris.
Emva kokunika imbono yembali malunga nokuba kutheni abafazi belahlekisiwe malunga ne-anatomy yabo kangangeenkulungwane ezininzi, kukho ingxoxo malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo ze-orgasms, apho uDirty Lola, umseki weSex Ed A -Go-Go, exoxa ngezigidigidi zesini. izinto zokudlala ezikhoyo kwaye ucebisa ukuba ngubani ofanele ukuzisebenzisa. Elinye icebiso elilungileyo lalimalunga neeplagi ze-butt: "Akukho siseko, akukho mkhondo." »
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Yeyiphi imiboniso eza kukukhumbuza? Imigaqo yolonwabo unoluvo lukaVox Ukwabelana ngesondo, kucacisiwe, kunye ne-animated interstitials, izibalo zegraphical kunye neenyani ezininzi. Kodwa lo mboniso ujolise ngakumbi kubantu basetyhini.
Uluvo lwethu: Kusenokuvakala cliché ukubhala oku Imigaqo yolonwabo kufuneka ibukeke ibalulekile kubantu baso nasiphi na isini, yinyani leyo ngokupheleleyo kule meko. Ngelixa iziqendu zijolise kwabasetyhini - kwaye, ngelixa zimalunga ne-anatomy, abantu abaluchungechunge bathetha nabo yi-cis, i-trans kunye ne-non-binary - ithatha indlela eyenza ukuba ulwazi oludluliselayo lufikeleleke kubaphulaphuli abaninzi, ubuncinane omnye. ngubani olungele ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokuba nobomi besondo obanelisayo.
Yenziwa ngengxelo ehlekisayo kodwa enolwazi evela eButeau ehlala iphumelela, kodwa neengcali ezingazami ukufundisa nabani na, kodwa zithathe ulwazi olufundileyo kwaye zifundise. Abanye bababukeli abathathayo kufuneka bathathe kwisiqendu sokuqala solu ngcelele lubandakanya ukuba ukuzonwabisa kubaluleke kakhulu njengenxalenye yobomi besondo obunempilo njengolonwabo oluvela kunye nokunika iqabane, kwaye le nxalenye inkulu yento exelelwe ngabasetyhini. Ngemizimba yabo nangesondo sesinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuba abantu abaninzi baxele ukuba abazange babe ne-orgasm.
Kutheni sicinga ukuba ilungele abaphulaphuli abaninzi kunokuba ilungiselelwe? Kuba ukuba uyazi ngakumbi malunga ne-anatomy yeqabane lakho, iminqweno, kunye namanqaku okuzonwabisa, isondo siya kuba ngcono kuni nobabini. Kwaye ngubani ongafuni ukufumana isikhokelo ngakumbi kweli sebe, nokuba ubuneqabane lakho iminyaka?
Isondo kunye nolusu: Ukuqwalasela uluhlu luphela malunga nesondo, kukho ubuninzi besondo kunye nesikhumba kolu chungechunge.
I-Farewell shot: Ehlolisisa isiqendu esilandelayo, uButeau uthi: “Zininzi iintsomi ezingengqondo namandla ongawaziyo nokuwazi. »
Sleeping Star: Siza kuyinika uLola omdaka kunye neentlobo ngeentlobo zezinto zokudlala.
Owona mgca wokulingwa kakhulu: Akukho nanye esayifumanayo.
Umnxeba wethu: SASAZA. Imigaqo yolonwabo iyonwaba kwaye inika ulwazi. Ngethemba lokuba ootitshala bemfundo yezesondo esikolweni baya kuthathela ingqalelo ukusebenzisa lo mboniso njengenxalenye yekharityhulamu yabo.
UJoel Keller (@joelkeller) ubhala ngokutya, ukuzonwabisa, umzali kunye nobuchwepheshe, kodwa akaziqhathi: ungumdlali weTV. Ubhalo lwakhe luvele kwiNew York Times, Slate, Salon, RollingStone.com, IVanityFair.comInkampani ekhawulezayo nakwezinye iindawo.
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