Opewa Chikondi amapewa kudziwika muubwenzi kuti adziteteze ku kutengeka ndi kulamulidwa ndi munthu wina. Opewa Chikondi pewani kuyanjana ndi abwenzi awo, pogwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana monga "njira zakutali."
N'chifukwa chiyani Opewa amakopeka ndi nkhawa? Izi zikutanthauza kuti mitundu yodetsa nkhawa imalumikizana ndi anthu omwe amapewa chifukwa anthu ozemba amachita zinthu monyanyira. Momwemonso, anthu ozemba amakopa zibwenzi zomwe zimawadetsa nkhawa zomwe zimawapangitsa kudzimva kuti akuthedwa nzeru. Izi zimatsimikizira chikhulupiriro chawo momwe ubale uyenera kuwoneka.
Kodi Opewa amasungulumwa?
Anthu omwe ali ndi njira zopewera kumamatira ndi amamva kuti ali yekhayekha za dziko lapansi, malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano wofalitsidwa m’magazini ya Personality and Individual Differences. Kafukufukuyu akuperekanso umboni wosonyeza kuti kudzimva kuti uli kutali ndi chinthu chosiyana ndi kusungulumwa.
Kodi Opewa alibe chifundo? Chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kwamalingaliro uku, amakonda kukhala opanda chifundo kwa anthu osowa (Joireman, Needham, & Cummings, 2001; Wayment, 2006). Komanso, anthu ozemba amakonda kuyankha molakwika pamalingaliro a mnzawo chifukwa malingaliro amenewo amatha kuwonetsa kuti amafunikira chidwi komanso ubwenzi.
Kodi munthu wopewa chikondi ndi chiyani?
Mwinamwake mukudziwa wina yemwe ali Wopewa Chikondi - munthu amene amapewa ndi kuopa ubwenzi. Kupeŵa chikondi kumakhala kofala kwa anthu omwe amavutika ndi kugonana kapena zolaula. Opewa Chikondi nthawi zambiri amakopeka ndi Okonda Kukonda - anthu omwe amakhazikika ndi chikondi.
Nchiyani chimayambitsa wopewa?
Kukhala wodalira ena. Kumva ngati ubale ukutenga nthawi yawo yambiri. Kudzudzulidwa ndi okondedwa awo. Amamva ngati adzaweruzidwa chifukwa chokhala okhudzidwa.
Kodi Opewa kugwa m'chikondi?
Anthu opewa musafune kuyandikana ndi ubwenzi, pewani kuwonetseredwa kwa malingaliro, ndikuwoneka kutali ndi kuzizira. Anthu omwe ali ndi kalembedwe kameneka kamakhala kosavuta kuti ayambe kukondana, ndipo samawoneka kuti amakhulupirira 'mosangalala mpaka kalekale'. Amaopa kukhala pachibwenzi ndipo samakonda kukhala pachibwenzi.
Kodi Opewa amafuna kuthamangitsidwa?
Ngati mnzanu akupewa, mungakhale ndi chikhumbo cha “kuwathamangitsa” iwo. Akachokako, umayesetsa kuyandikira pafupi nawo. Kwa inu, izi zimamveka ngati njira yothetsera vutolo. … Zingamveke ngati zotsutsana kusiya kuthamangitsa okondedwa wanu kapena kuyesa kutseka kusiyana kwamalingaliro.
Kodi Opewa ali ndi abwenzi?
Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lodziletsa amakhala odzidalira kwambiri, nthawi zambiri amafuna kudzipatula komanso kudzipatula kwa anzawo. … Mu maubwenzi, cholumikizira ichi akhoza kusungidwa ndipo angakhale ndi mabwenzi ambiri, koma mabwenzi apamtima ochepa.
Kodi kukhala ndi vuto la kupewa umunthu kumakhala bwanji?
Ngati mukukhala ndi vuto lopewa umunthu, ena angaganize za inu wamanyazi, wosungidwa, kapena wachinsinsi. Matendawa amaposa kuchita manyazi, ngakhale kuti zizindikiro zoyamba nthawi zambiri zimaphatikizapo mantha aubwana. Anthu amanyazi amatha kukhala ndi vuto lolumikizana ndi anthu atsopano poyamba koma pang'onopang'ono amakhala omasuka pakapita nthawi.
Kodi Zopewera zitha kukhala zokakamira?
Anzanu opewa amakonda kukamba zambiri za ufulu wodziyimira pawokha osati kuyandikana, ufulu m'malo mwaubwenzi, komanso kudzidalira m'malo modalirana. Iwo kuopa anthu okakamira kapena kuwonedwa ngati odziphatika.
Kodi Opewa kugwa m'chikondi?
Wopewa anthu safuna kuyandikira komanso ubwenzi, pewani kuwonetseredwa kwa malingaliro, ndikuwoneka kutali ndi kuzizira. Anthu omwe ali ndi kalembedwe kameneka kamakhala kosavuta kuti ayambe kukondana, ndipo samawoneka kuti amakhulupirira 'mosangalala mpaka kalekale'. Amaopa kukhala pachibwenzi ndipo samakonda kukhala pachibwenzi.
Kodi Opewa amapepesa?
Kafukufuku wa Schumann and Orehek (2019) adawonetsa kuti kumapewa kwambiri munthu chinali, kupepesa kwawo kunali kocheperako, kuyesayesa kocheperako komwe adapanga popanga kupepesa, komanso kudziteteza kwambiri.
Kodi Zopewera ndizabwino pabedi?
Liti kwambiri Anthu ozemba amagonana ndi okondedwa awo, nthawi zambiri sasonyeza chikondi ndi kulabadira zofuna za mnzawo. ... Koma chodabwitsa, maubwenzi a anthu omwe sali otetezeka amakhala opindula kwambiri ndi kugonana.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji ngati munthu akuzemba?
Kuvuta kusonyeza kapena kumva maganizo awo
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Kusapeza bwino ndi kuyandikana kwakuthupi ndi kukhudza
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Kuimba mlandu
mnzawo kukhala wokangamira kwambiri kapena wokondana kwambiri. Kukana thandizo kapena kuthandizidwa ndi ena.
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Iwo akhoza:
- Pewani kukhudza thupi.
- Pewani kukhudzana maso.
- Osapempha thandizo kapena ayi.
- Idyani m'njira zachilendo kapena zosalongosoka.
Kodi awiri Opewa angakhale pa ubwenzi?
Zopewera nthawi zambiri zimakumana nazo mwina Otetezeka kapena Oda nkhawa-Otanganidwa. Amakonda kusakwatirana ndi Zopewa zina. Awa ndi awiri osowa.
Kodi Avoidants amasewera?
Anthu opewa amapeza zolakwika mwa aliyense
M'malo molola kuti chibwenzi chizikula mwachibadwa, munthu wozemba amakonda kumangoganizira zinthu zimene sakukhutira nazo. … Pofuna kuthetsa nkhawa, iwo nthawi zina kusewera masewera mu ubale wawo kuti chidwi.
Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji ngati ndikupewa?
Kuvuta kusonyeza kapena kumva maganizo awo
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Kusapeza bwino ndi kuyandikana kwakuthupi ndi kukhudza
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Iwo akhoza:
- Pewani kukhudza thupi.
- Pewani kukhudzana maso.
- Osapempha thandizo kapena ayi.
- Idyani m'njira zachilendo kapena zosalongosoka.
Kodi Opewa amathana bwanji ndi zibwenzi?
Opewa adzagwiritsa ntchito zifukwa zambiri (kwa iwo eni komanso kwa ena) kupeŵa kuulula zowonadi zoyambirirazi. Iwo ochepa yopuma-mmwamba madandaulo ndi kumva mpumulo kusiya okondedwa awo, koma kenako kufunafuna munthu yemweyo.
Kodi makhalidwe a avoidant?
Monga munthu wamkulu, munthu yemwe ali ndi njira yopewera kugwirizana angakumane ndi zotsatirazi:
- kupeŵa kuyandikana kwamtima mu maubwenzi.
- kumverera ngati kuti okondedwa awo akukakamira pamene iwo akungofuna kukhala pafupi kwambiri.
- kudzipatula ndi kulimbana ndi zovuta zokha.
- kupondereza maganizo.
Kodi Opewa ali ndi abwenzi apamtima?
Opewa-opewa angakhale abwino kukumana ndi anthu. Izi zimawathandiza kukhala ndi abwenzi ambiri komanso omasuka. Ngakhale zosankha zawo, ali nazo zochepa, ngati alipo, abwenzi apamtima. Iwo amasangalala kukhala okha ndipo amangoganizira za iwo eni pamene sali pagulu.
Kodi ndingakhale bwanji mnzanga wabwino wopewa?
Adziwitseni kuti zosowa zawo ndi zofunika ndi kuti mumawathandiza pamene ali okonzeka kuyankhula. Kuleza mtima ndikofunika kwambiri pochita ndi anthu omwe ali ndi masitayelo opewa, koma kuwadziwitsa kuti mumawakonda mwaulemu ndi malo abwino kuyamba. ”
Ndi munthu wodziwika uti yemwe ali ndi vuto la kupewa umunthu?
Whoopi Goldberg, Donny Osmond ndi Kim Basinger kukhala ndi china chofanana kupatula kutchuka - ndikupewa kusokonezeka kwa umunthu, kapena kuphweka, AvPD. Matendawa akuti amakhudza pafupifupi awiri mwa anthu XNUMX alionse akuluakulu.
Kodi AVPD ndi yowopsa?
Avoidant Personality Disorder (AVPD) ndi vuto lodziwika bwino lomwe limalumikizidwa ndi kupsinjika kwakukulu, kulemala, ndi kulemala. Ndi matenda osatha omwe ali ndi zaka zoyambira komanso zomwe zimakhudza moyo wawo wonse. Komabe sichidziwika bwino ndipo sichiphunziridwa bwino. Zochepa zomwe zimadziwika ponena za mankhwala othandiza kwambiri.
Kodi umunthu wopewa ndi woopsa bwanji?
Anthu omwe ali ndi avoidant personality disorder (APD) ali ndi vuto lodziletsa moyo wamanyazi kwambiri. Amamvanso kuti ndi osakwanira ndipo amakhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kukanidwa. APD ikhoza kuyambitsa zizindikiro zamaganizo zomwe zimabweretsa mavuto aakulu ndi maubwenzi ndi ntchito.